Secrets to Lasting Love
Whether you're married in Las Vegas or married at home, have a large wedding or a small intimate affair, the one idea you go into a marriage with is that it will last.
When I speak with couples before the wedding, I usually ask: What do you love the most about him (or her). When I perform renewal ceremonies, I usually ask: What have you learned from your partner over the years and how have you changed?
So whether it's been 1 year or 41 years for you and your beloved, here are some real-life comments regarding the secrets of a lasting marriage:
- I can be myself with her.
- Some people think just being with one person will take away from your life; what you come to realize it's really more life than you thought was possible.
- I've changed in our marriage. I've become independent & interdependent.
- He is such a caring person; it makes me be more caring.
- I love her passion for everything she does and it makes 'us' more passionate.
- I love his sense of humor; we have fun together!
- I love that he never gives up.
- She is my best friend.
- The longer you're married, the longer your love has a chance to grow.
- He accepts me and loves me for me. We communicate both the wonderful and the difficult.
- Always make time for self and time for the relationship.
- Learn to forgive.
- Learn to care about the other person's hurts more than you care about your own pleasure.
- Remember why you fell in love.
- Remember to laugh.
- Remember to say 'I love you", it reinforces the love for the both of you.
- Give the other a chance to make mistakes, learn from them, and remain kind and forgiving.
- Don't jump to conclusions; hear your partner out before you judge.
- I spoke with a bride and groom this week to said, "We are clear that we want a marriage - not a wedding." I love that distinction.
May you always remember that love is the foundation on which your lives are built.