Is Eloping Right For You?
Perhaps the first question you'd need to answer is who is the wedding for? Is it for you and your fiancé, is it for your parents or is it for your friends? Well you may say, all of course! And this may well be true, but stop and ask yourself what is really important to you? Would you consider an intimate, low-key, stress-free wedding? Elopements were once a black-sheep-slip-away-in-the-middle-of-the-night sort of events; but no longer. Plus elopements don't have to be cheesy. Some brides want the dress, the flowers, the photographer and the intimacy of saying their vows all in a beautiful location – all the memories – but without the guests. A garden setting, a golf club, the beauty of the desert, even a spot on the Las Vegas strip can be personalized to fit you and your fiancé at a fraction of the cost.
Cost is certainly only one factor to consider; emotions are another. Personal feelings can be very sensitive when it comes to weddings. Whom do you include in the bridal party? There are always people who will be sensitive to not being asked to stand up with you. How many guests can you include? Las Vegas is a great destination location, loads of entertainment options and hotels, easy access via car or air. Can all your relatives afford to come? Will they feel badly if they are invited and can't afford it? Will they feel worse if they aren't invited? If dealing with any of these challenges will take away from your special day, perhaps you might consider eloping. I love, love, love big splashy weddings but I also believe in investigating all the options.
One couple from the mid-west spent a week in Vegas exploring, eating, hiking and getting married in their low-key style with a ceremony under the Arc de Triomphe - he wore jeans and she wore a fabulous sequined dress. Their vows were symbolic and personalized in such a way as to be meaningful to them and their story. The above couple from England chose the Dry Lake Bed for their romantic and never to be forgotten wedding setting.
Yes, a girl or a guy wants all the bells and whistles; until she or he doesn't.