Children Will Be Children
Without doubt the cutest part of a wedding is the ring bearer and flower girl (s). Seeing those little ones clean and dressed so adorably just breaks my heart into a happy smile! This photo is an excellent example of such taken at a recent wedding at Reflection Bay Golf Club at Lake Las Vegas. (Photo credit: www.fabioandadri.com)
However a word to the wise, the wedding belongs to the bride and you don't want anyone to upstage her. It's best to choose children between the ages of 3 and 7 or 4 and 8 depending on their maturity level and size. Only choose children you have observed as being well-behaved, able to do what they are asked to do, not so shy they won't walk without Mom or Dad and have some semblance of appropriateness (no nose picking or throwing the basket or pillow into the air or audience like a paper airplane). This means the choice belongs to the bridal couple, don't be 'guilted' into choosing children that aren't really special to you or family or friends' children if you don't deem they a right for the job.
Some things are cute, but invariable you'll have some little hiccup, which makes for a good story later but is very distracting in the moment. I once had a little ring bearer who had to go to the restroom in the middle of the vows. I realized the bride was not paying attention to her groom or me but didn't realize what the need was because the little ring bearer had been fidgety from the beginning of the ceremony. Once I realized, we stopped and got someone to assist the little fellow and then we continued. No big deal, you might say, but our goal is to keep the bride as stress free as possible and the sacredness of the vows and the moment protected.
Be sure the children have completed their entrance and are in place at the front ,either standing with the wedding party or seated in the front row before the bride steps out. This way, we only have eyes for the bride. This may be the most important and beautiful entrance she will ever make. Let's give her our undivided attention