Do We Write Our Own Vows?
Sometimes couples are sure they want to write their own vows. Sometimes they say, “No, I’ll be too nervous.” Sometimes one person wants to say their own vows and the other wants to ‘repeat after me.’ You know what? Any of the above is okay. If one wants to repeat after me and the other to speak from their own words, I can make that happen without either of you feeling uncomfortable. If you both want to repeat after me, perfect! I even offer you many different examples from which to choose the ‘wording’ that fits you best.
But let’s talk about what if you DO want to write you own vows, which I personally recommend. Your vows are the reason for the ceremony. You will forget many aspects of your wedding but you will never forget the words your beloved spoke on that special day. Now, you may want to review them later or on each anniversary because there will be a lot going on during the ceremony. In which I recommend you buying cute little Vow Books to record your words. You can find them in many places, Etsy, The Art of Etiquette and my fav, the velvet one in the photo above, which is from Elmo Paper Stories.
Your vows will be the heart of your ceremony because they come from your heart. They will serve as the foundation from which your future together will be built. You may write them together or separately, share them before the wedding or for the first time during the ceremony. You may speak about tender and romantic moments as well as share light-hearted and fun stories. You could talk about your values, your faith and your family (whatever is important to you). You may share a favorite poem or a meaningful quote or simple share your promises to your partner and your dreams for your future together. You could talk about someone’s marriage that you admire and why.
The significance and personalization of your vows proclaim your commitment to the other; that of being a team and helping each other grow. Your future is an open book; it’s yours to own and yours to make happen. No one else can write your vows, just as no one else can live your life.
“I want my marriage to be more beautiful than my wedding.” Wedding Wire